Recently, a friend of mine has completely turned her life upside down for a boy. I get it. You are in love and he's completely swept you off your feet. That's awesome! I truly am happy for my friend. I want all of friends to meet people in their lives that will be amazing, opportunistic, and caring for them.
However, a boy can come into your life but why do the girlfriends have to leave?
Let me back up, I once was the girl that ditched all of her friends for the boyfriend but my friends said "Ashley, get your act together because we have been here a heck of longer time than he has." And that was that. I learned the balance between friends and a serious boyfriend and yes it was hard but not as difficult I think people make it.
I think I sound condescending but its hard to explain that I get both the best friends' side and how they feel but then the girl who has found this new boy and wants to learn everything about him.
I feel like no matter what, your true best friends still should hold some sort of importance. If not, were you just hanging out with them till time passed by unit you found that boy? That would be pretty upsetting I feel in a person. Obviously when someone gets married that man is going to take a great importance in their life but don't you think time should be made for the best friends to at least once in a while?
I feel like I can already pinpoint the girls who will always abide to their husbands when they are older and I feel like will come out of contact with me. I actually could not imagine that. My best friends are my day ones. Like I said, the relationship between my best friends will change when we are all married but I am hoping that will all take the importance I think we have to make time for each other.
Back to this friend, I feel like with this boy she is with kind of dictates what she does especially when she hangs out with us. Alright, so he may not be the biggest fans of us (we are those drunk girls who watch frozen. I know, probably mortifying but come on people ITS A GREAT MUSICAL).But seriously, I think men also need to get it through their thick skulls we don't always want to hang out with them.
So when is the point past understanding with this friend and her boyfriend? I think that is why I am struggling. Because again you understand the love but then you don't understand the amount of time. And then goes to question that just because you may not agree with the time they spend together doesn't mean that they care about it at all. I usually do not care about these things!! I think it is just cause this person was a best friend and how quickly things changed and how I am struggling with telling her my feelings but at the same time is that to jealous/rude/condescending of me?
I am not so sure.
Send help.
-Ash
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